Who Cuts You Down?
Recently, I asked you about what happens when you told people about your dreams and ideas for the future and success. Want to end that nastyness? (Impatient? You can come to the teleseminar for free or get the audio and/or transcript for a fee. Scroll down and read the whole letter, the sign up links are near the bottom if you want to register right now!)
THEY CUT YOU DOWN
Most of you said someone close to you criticizes you, laughs at you, tears you down or in some way makes you feel small and powerless to some degree.
YOU DO IT to YOURSELF
Many of you said it was you who did it to yourself. “I’m my own worst enemy,” “I can’t seem to stop beating myself up for wanting more than I have now.” “No matter what I do it isn’t enough….”
“I DON’T TALK ABOUT IT….”
Some said, “I just don’t talk about my dreams anymore unless I know for sure it’s with someone I trust.”
A few said, “My husband laughs at me. He sure doesn’t complain when I bring money home, though. What’s THAT about?”
DOES THIS HIT HOME FOR YOU?
Here are a few examples of what some of you said you hear from Judgement-Joes-and-Janes:
- what makes you think you can do that?
- oh, yeah… how are you going to do that when you have this, this and this to do?
- what about me? will you have time for me?
- what about what I want?
- if you want to do that, you also need to learn this, this and this first, and…
- you know how you don’t like to do those things and feel uncomfortable doing them
- how much is that going to cost?
- what if you don’t succeed?
- you like to start these but they don’t pan out
- or you don’t finish them?
You reported that you feel:
- angry
- sad
- deflated
- desperate
- reckless and rebellious
- helpless
- powerless
- disappointed
- frustrated that someone who is supposed to love and support you doubts you
- they doubt your passions and dreams
- they doubt or make fun of what you believe is possible;
- maybe s/he will poke holes in your dream before it’s had a chance to develop
You said you feel like:
- you can’t say a word back
- you always feel so blind-sided by their hurtful words
- postponing your dream because of giving into THEIR belief
- you start to believe you might not succeed or that it might be hard
- sharing as little as possible until you get things going
- you don’t say anything until you feel confident in your process.
- it’s OK not to share some things even with those closest to you
- you think sometimes that’s just best for both of you
- your loved ones are scared for you
- they may have experienced failure & worry you’ll fail & be disappointed, too;
- they’re afraid of not having security
- they’re afraid things might change
- your passions are expanding and they wonder what that means for them…
GOOD GRIEF.
Well! That’s a whole passle of woe, isn’t it? Yikes! No wonder sometimes your dreams get swept under the rug, and you end up staring out the window feeling listless and hurt and dead inside!
OK, then – let’s do something about this, shall we?
YES!
What if I told you I could show you a new way to deal with the people who cut your down so the sting of what they said no longer even exists, much less hurts?
What if that way of dealing with them was NOT confrontational, or angry or mean?
What if it was a way to a peace, clarity and confidence you’ve never felt before?
What if you knew a new way to think about the people who hurt you like this so you can behave in a different way that takes the wind out of their sails, without giving in, arguing, sulking or fighting?
What would it be like if you could, at last, trust these people to support you in your dreams and not say anything even remotely derogatory anymore?
Not possible?
Yes, it is!
WHAT HAPPENED TO ‘ELISE’
Here’s just one example: I worked with ‘Elise,’ a woman in NZ, in her late 60s, who was always anxious about her husband. He had quit even talking to her more than ten years before. She chewed her fingernails and the skin around them all the way down to the first knuckles on all her fingers, and she wanted to divorce him.
[Hard to understand how anyone could go that long in an emotional trap like that, isn't it? I'd have left way before!]
I showed her what was really going on, and helped her create a new way of dealing with herself and him.
One day after about 6 weeks’ work together, she came bursting in to my office absolutely beaming, and held out a bouquet of flowers.
“He just sent these to me at work!” she said. “He’s asked me out for a Valentine’s Day date!”
Six weeks. After more than ten years living separately together. Not even talking to each other.
He continued to “woo” her, as she called it, taking her out on dates, and in a few more months, surprised her with a gift safari in Africa – which she had told him 20 years before was her wildest dream.
His long silence was over; she no longer felt useless, powerless, helpless, angry or trapped.
On the contrary! She now feels valuable, precious and respected. He changed, as well – and we didn’t even work directly on him or any of his issues.
YOU CAN, TOO…
You can have that kind of switch, too. I’ll show you a few simple ways to get a turn around for yourself, first.
And then you can watch as your close one shifts too … gently – without you lecturing, bitching, moaning, pushing, controlling, hiding or leaving.
Painlessly. Delightedly.
PLEASE JOIN ME!
You’ll enjoy and discover a lot from both teleseminars where I showed you just how to take care of those problems. I showed you some simple ideas with some very different tapping and personal walk-throughs.
You’ll find out what to do when people try to cut you down again, even if you are in front of an audience!
You’ll also see why people do what they do, and how to defuse it so you won’t feel so rotten when they attack you with their words, actions and gestures.
You’ll be surprised when you find out how good you can feel when you use my simple but very powerful 1-2-3 method on your hurts and feelings, walking away feeling more confident, happy and assured.
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